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Monthly Newsletter: September 2020
Your Stories
I met him after a very sad time in my life that I hadn’t fully recovered from. About 3 months after we married things started changing. He wasn’t the attentive person he was anymore. Fast forward about 5 years of hard work and patience and counseling, the counselor mentioned the word Narcissistic to describe him. The last 3 years, I tuned into something I wasn’t. That was about 20 years ago and I have since remarried happily to a wonderful supportive husband. Today is our 12th Anniversary! - Deana
Your Questions
Q: If an extended family member is a narcissist and clearly very difficult to be around, would reaching out to her be wise? She never reaches out to me but than complains I don’t put enough effort in reaching out. It’s only one way.
A: I don’t know about wise, but it’s very doubtful it will add value to your life. Someone who is difficult to be around is difficult to be around, and that’s just how it is. They aren’t going to change based on anything you do or don’t do. But if you don’t want to deal with that, you don’t have to - whether she agrees or not.
Tips & Topics
Getting to know yourself after abuse is about figuring out who you are, what you value and what you need. Doing the work to figure these things out is not easy but it is so rewarding! Make a list of words & traits that you feel define you. Think about why these things define you and what they mean to you. Are these things you value? What are your values? Listing and prioritizing your values helps you get much closer to being able to understand & create the life you truly want to live. Making a list of areas where you shine and areas where you struggle helps you get to know yourself better as well. The better you know yourself, the better you can meet your own needs & the better you can take care of yourself. ❤︎
Spotlight: Meditation
Recovering from trauma is not just about processing information. It’s also about learning to understand the physical responses your body is having. Meditation is extremely helpful with learning to regulate this again. Not only does it stimulate the vagus nerve, it also forces your body to slow down and understand that there is no emergency. Meditation is not just for your mind, and it’s not just something extra we should do when we have time. It is something that is necessary for self-care, particularly after trauma and abuse. More information is available at the links included here.
Workshops & Events
This month we are proud to present the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Clinic online on September 26 & 27. This includes three of the Sister's most popular workshops, plus hours more of information. Click here for more info. This workshop will be run again in December.
The very popular Shadow Work workshop ran this month. The next one will be announced soon.
The LIVE! Show was put on hiatus for the Clinic but will return in October so keep an eye out for that.
The Little Shaman did an interview this month on Rhona Mitra’s podcast, The Last Ark. Find this on iTunes and Spotify.
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