What is TRRAP?

TRRAP stands for Toxic Relationship Recovery Assistance Program. It was created by The Little Shaman and is based on the principles of radical acceptance and fearless ownership. TRRAP is similar to the 12 Step model often implemented by addiction recovery programs. People end up in toxic relationships because they have given their power away. The only way we can take our power back is by accepting that we've given it away and that we are in control of ourselves and our lives. By accepting that we have the power to change our current situation, and by taking ownership of ourselves and our lives, we reclaim our power.

Some of the truths that we embrace are difficult. TRRAP is for survivors who want to thrive. 


Is There An Addiction Involved?

As a matter of fact, yes. Science has discovered that drama uses the same mechanisms and creates the same reactions in the brain as opiates, such as heroin and morphine. There is a very real chemical component to this dynamic, as well as a psychological one. Therefore, an addiction to the arousal (drama) of a toxic relationship should be viewed as a very real thing. People who are detoxing from these relationships often experience very real withdrawal symptoms like cravings, irritability, heightened reactivity, gastrointestinal upset, difficulty sleeping, anxiety and other things that we typically associate with chemical dependency. 


What is The Goal of TRRAP?

TRRAP aims to provide people struggling with arousal addiction a set of steps they can work on to help deal with their underlying issues while they work through their very real addiction to arousal (drama), as well as a supportive network. As with any other type of dependency, the addiction itself is not the problem. It is a symptom of the real problem. 


How Can People Use TRRAP?

You don’t have to sign up for anything. The program is free. You begin with familiarizing yourself with the concepts and principals they are based on. The Steps are designed to be worked autonomously (by yourself, at your own pace). That means you don't have to wait to do anything. You can start working the program right now, on your own. All that's required is a commitment to breaking the addiction and working on yourself. Individual support is available through appointments. There will be weekly TRRAP support meetings hosted by The Little Shaman online so that you can share your experience with the group if you like or receive feedback, etc. These meetings will be free to attend, confidential and you are encouraged to be anonymous. 

Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.
— John Milton, Paradise Lost